description of kava. Among different polynesian cultures kava is prepared in a variety of ways. Kava (called 'ava)in Samoa, sole purpose serves as a beverage,
Consumed at all important gatherings and (SamoaAvaCermony).
Well this is my outlook on kava and how it affects me. Here in Salt Lake City this beverage is so popular. People have kava clubs, they sell it in grocery stores, over websites and drink kava anywhere they can get it. What was once a traditional ceremonial drink to celebrate the
beautiful polynesian culture. Has now become a house hold name for polynesians as well as for non-polynesians alike. That have now opt to abuse the beauty in this tradition and taint the meaning of fai kava. Individuals that have allowed their addiction to lead them from one poor choice to another. Planting thoughts that eventually turn into actions by young adults. Who choose to have premarital sex or sex like acts.
Intoxicated kava drinkers who will degrade women in how they address or speak to these females. Usually dressed up in a joke or flattery in order to charm these women.
Women that are either drinking in the circle. Or others that are referred to as Toua's.
One choosen woman during these mixes, that is given the responsiblity to serve the kava. Which can and has led many people, to commit the most unthinkable choices made known to man. When an individual decides to cheat on their spouse by attending these kava mixes. Because of the affect that kava has on their mind & bodies has taken full control. Some of the very reasons why a percentage of church leaders of the Lds faith. That have participated in these kava mixes have lost out. Have loss their callings, temple recommends and families by choosing kava over their reponsibilities. And those are extreme examples of why, I don't agree with drinking kava.
But here is the problem whether your of an lds faith or not. Your mixes may start off innocent at first but as time passes. It has a high potential of becoming an extreme mix.
Even if it doesn't get as extreme, as in losing a spouse to adultry. It still provides that temptation. When your at a mix, your unattend spouse could cheat on you. Even if your the most faithful fai kava drinker in the world. While away have you considered that or the following.
What if something happens to your spouse or children? Someone attacks your spouse, a wife or child getting raped or worse of all someone kills your family.
Because you weren't there to protect them, let alone protect your marriage.
All because you placed your addiction over them. It always happens to those who arrogantly hold the notion. "Ahh that wouldn't happen to me." Then when it does, tears of regret and anguish grows. And then what? Kava drink your misery away for a unwise choice? Food for thought :)
So because certain members of my family and friends love drinking kava and I don't.
I wanted to document how this trend
A couple years ago, one of my sisterfren's
Well fast forward to the present year 2011 and a week before General Conference.
And then another one the following Saturday.
The night before Sunday Morning General Conference.
Which is totally irrelevant right now.
The moral of the story is "free agency".
And people have foolishly allowed life choices like these to be decided by others. Their mother,father, siblings,friends, so called friends. etc and so on and so forth. When in reality we should be making those critical decisions on our own, for ourselves and no one else.
Because it makes a big difference of where those choices lead you.
Even if it means your choice leads you to stand alone. Because it's not a crowd pleaser type of choice. It's always smarter to act rather than to allow others to act for YOU!! Assuming you were blessed
with your own brain, right?
So as I was bonding with these family members and friends. I'd have to say initially it felt uncomfortable. Because they know how I feel about kava mixes. And I knew they were feeling judged. Not only because of my choice to pass on drinking. The biggest point I wanted to put across.Was that I loved them despite their choices. Because bottom line their my family. I really don't know what might've been running through their minds & hearts. But here are a couple of reactions from that night.
Blogging about it now. Reminds me that people want to be accepted, they want to be around people their comfortable with no matter the cost.Whether it keeps them from their salvation or not. People will do what they want at the end. Because life trials will weigh them down from living steadfast. And sometimes giving up or being relax about living standards is easier to do. Instead of fighting the good fight and keeping the course. Because people get tired of being
So they live below their potential. This doesn't just go for kava drinkers. It has to be said for all of us. We all at one point in our lives will live below our potential. Because when we don't feel right, we don't do right. Sometimes provoked by ourselves being to hard on ourselves. And at other times provoked because others aren't living the golden rule towards us. How are you being less judgemental and more accepting?
Or are you shameless individuals
casting stones at people for their choices?
Who are you pulling down?
Who are you lifting up?
I pray we overcome our own personal addictions & unrighteous judgements.
That your aware of your worth & take charge of the change you are seeking. One step at time. Towards getting stronger spiritually. Asking yourselves; Have you lifted someone up today? Challenging all of us to look up to God, ask for help and get with God's Program. Not kava or anything else tripping you up in life. If you can conceive that you can overcome an
addiction and work with the Lord.
There's no doubt that he will get you through it all. Got Heavenly Father?