Friday, February 24, 2012

Porn Isn't it About Time?

NOOOOO IT'S NEVER TIME FOR PORN.. Are you crazy? But believe you, me! I'm not judging anyone because sad to say, everyone has their addiction or preference of entertainment. And secondly I unfortunately receive that junk in my regular mail. Am I an undercover freak? closet hoe? NOPE I'm not, but without fail on a monthly. That stuff addressd in my name, comes in the mail for me. And I hate it because that's not me. I've never been on those websites & vow to never ever get sucked into that world. Because it really doesn't matter if your LDS or not. That type of addition can kill any relationship,testimony or soul. Is this a blog to defend my innocence because of what I've shared? Not really, because people will believe what they want to believe about me. And those who matter will know that I don't subject myself to those things.
 And what I've come to understand, through this unfortunate monthly mishap. Is that all that matters is God &I know for sure that I don't get down like that at all. The motivation for this blog is for someone, I love dearly who is dealing with this trial concerning their spouse. And I want to make it clear that it can happen to anyone. The poorest of men/women to the richest.  And when and if it does to open peoples eyes that there is a way out. Especially if your LDS and the standard we live. People ignorantly sin and then make it worse on themselves to think there is no solution to their sin. When there is and that's called the ATONEMENT OF JESUS CHRIST.  Which gives them the opportunity to be saved.. Asking for it is why Christ died for us and don't ever think it's to late to overcome it. Because it's not ever! And  that's why I'm blogging about this issue.

I wanted to hear you allz feedback, so I can support this friend of mine. I hear that being married intensifies everything. When your in that "honeymoon stage" expressing love for one another. Its heaven on earth and then when the "comfort stage" sets in things can get crazy. Almost a daily hellish scene. So if this was your friend or if you've experience this with your spouse.
What would you tell them to do? What advice would you give that is most effective.
This friend of mine is going through a support 12 step program with her spouse. But it almost seems to me with the limited info that I have on the info. It sounds like my friend is feeling hopeless. Who wouldn't? But even though their fighting to hang on the dispair is real. I understand that I might not get a lot of advice, on this topic because it's a case by case situation. And you can't really say anything til your in it. But any help would do.

(Real Love, Godly Love endures all things through Eternal Love)


I feel for my friend but at the same time I know this is going to be a total testimony builder for the both of them. It's just crazy all these recent events that are coming up. And how the attack on families and couples just seem to be getting worse. I'm just like whoa Eternal Marriage? Is it really gonna come? Is it worth it? And when it comes soon will I be faithful enough to keep working at it? Especially if all my friends are going through these crazy test, how ready am I? I'm not saying I don't want it.. Because obviously with my every blog there is some linking msg to that subject. But I do know I'm more and more grateful I haven't ended up just anybody. And so I have to tip my hat off to all you married, involved, divorcees and engaged friends. If I were in your place I don't know if I could stand it. Anyway hit me up with your thoughts on "Porn isn't it About Time?" Cause for me and mine it will never. But if I can learn from you guys and your approaches even better for my future family & kids. To prepare them to overcome that trial if we ever have to face it.

Love you all & hit me up at ovaafo7@gmail.com or facebook if your to ma, aka embarassed to express yourself on this one. Happy Saturday!



5 comments:

  1. So sad. One of the biggest poisens in alot of marriages. I know someone that is going through the same thing and went to her Mother in-law for help and was told "Thats what Men do, Let him Be" My heart broke for this person cause HELL NO ITS NOT OKAY!!! Its a poison. It hurts you as well as your significant other. But like you said Ova its a addiction. We all have different addictions, but this one can be deadly since its done in the dark with the doors closed and nobody watching. All you can do is be their to listen to your friend. Pray that her husband can fight through this. Porn is everywhere especially with all the technology we have around us. I thought that temptation was hard being single, but being married the Devil lives. He doesn't want to see couples work together and STAY TOGETHER!! My husband and I have endured much in our 5 years, but everytime we make it through we become closer. We pray to Love eachother MORE each day and we strive to see through eachothers imperfections. No marriage is perfect, but if we can trust one another to help eachother out in our weakness our Love WILL GROW and CONTINUE to grow. This subject is a tough one and I remember in NC one Sunday the Bishop brought all the adults together the last hour of church and brought this issue to our attention. He said it was a HUGE thing going on in the church and how they had all these programs for those in this situation. I hope your friend can save her marriage. We can't let the Devil win in these last days. His power is strong, BUT WE CAN BE STRONGER!!

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  2. Thanks sis means a lot when you reply. I just want lds people esp the ones that live in utah to wake up.. That it doesn't mean if we are living the gospel that we are excempt from trials. And when we fall that we have no way out. Because it's been my witness when mormons that I know think there is no solution. They allow themselves room for excuse to keep living below their potential. And I don't know what it feels like to be addicted to substances like drugs, alcohal and sex stuff. But I do know when we are less judgemental of those who do have it. And actually do something to helping ppl. Then people gain hope & the desire to move away from that stuff. This friend's experience with their spouse totally taught me never to even stick my nose in the air at others. Esp if they have addictions. Cuz who's to say that can't happen to me or my future spouse. I refuse to be a hypocrit and when I find myself falling into that mode. You can be sure I fix it or otherwise ask for help to fix it. Love u sis happy sabbath

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  3. U should change ur name to Ms. "ALL AROUND" counselor...lol..nah my bad, i know this is a serious matter but, it just seems like U my dear friend is always putting others before yourself..watta great person!
    Ok back to the matter at hand..lol. It's unfortunate that most peoples reaction is, as one of your friends has already stated.."that's what men do..". Give me a break! I've heard that reply before & what I say to that is, stop being so ignorant! Addictions sometimes are not so easy to let go & unless a person gets the help they need, it can ruin the rest of their life & those close to them(like a spouse, in this matter).
    I read an article on "ADDICTIONS" a while back & it stated that in order for one to start the healing process they must first of course recognize that they have a problem & stop being in denial about it. Next is, they themselves MUST WANT to stop the addiction before moving on. & the list goes on. (sounds like the REPENTANCE process huh?)
    Many times those who find themselves up against a wall in sorrow seem to forget that they have loved ones who also feel the same sorrow & pain! I pray that your friend & her spouse find their way back to each other through mending the TRUST that has obviously been broken & to also learn how to somehow get over it & move on with no expectations & no regrets!
    If there is anything I've learned through out my imperfect marriage & relationship is, to always remember to put the Lord at the center of it all! If we first do this, everything else will slowly but surely fall into place! The Lord will be the ultimate HELP this couple is looking for!

    Luv ya my friend!

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  4. lol@Ms. "ALL AROUND" counselor... it's those who counsel the most who need the most counseling. That's why I turn to you my lovely blogger frenz.. No joke to that one my sister.. So thank you for your advice & proving that making up excuses like "that's what men do" is unacceptable because pornography is so deadly. And believe me I'm just trying to get education as much as I can about this marriage stuff. So I know how to handle stuff like this in the future. Thanks Sis :)

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  5. I know first hand the slow rot pornography creates in a relationship. And for a spouse it is a painful long road. There's no way I get through the hard days alone. Only the power of Christ can heal those kind of wounds. I'm so sorry for your friend.

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