So because I'm single, I often get a lot of advice from married people. But just recently I got some helpful advice from my brother John Toutai aka "John Doe." Who just recently got into a relationship & for some reason felt that I needed to hear some "Dr. Hitch" type of insight. He goes "O when I see people in the same boat that I use to be in, I want to help them get out of it, so GET OUT OF THE BOAT OVA!" What he was getting to was that he wanted me to date somebody, anybody but just date with the frame of mind of "Everyone is an option."
"He won't go for me becuz he goes for skinny girls."
Well these three love ones of mine John Doe,Emz & Tirae had me thinking alot over my behavior and what bright lights of hope & realization that I needed from them to finally remind me to be more open & just be.
Remembering it's not Boyz vs Girls or Me vs Girls that I assume my potential crushes, maybe into at the moment moreso than them ever being into me.
But what's important is that I get out of my way & stop sabotaging myself. Like how we all do to ourselves. By losing faith in ourselves, in our love interest & especially on what the Lord has instored for our hearts. Because we've been hurt in the past, cheated on, broken relationships, engagements, divorced more than once or just out of fear running from love.